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Jun 21, 2010
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Cutting and Smoking-One in the Same
by: Anonymous

Your story says that smoking makes you happy now because replaces your habit to self-injure (cut). Both habits are self-destructive and extremely harmful to your physical and psychological health.

Replacing one bad coping mechanism with another will never work. You can try anything you want to destroy yourself-smoking, cutting, drugs, reckless behavior (ex. drinking and driving), etc.

The bottom line is that they are all efforts to hurt yourself due to a chronic underlying feeling of inadequacy. Trust me, I have done ALL of them. It is called "cross-addiction." You are never happy and will never be happy if any of these behaviors continue.

As long as you know you are doing something to purposefully destroy your health, relationships, and any possible sense of peace, self-love, or well-being, you will always feel sad, angry, and lonely.

What you and all people need are HEALTHY coping skills to deal with our problems. There are plenty: music, exercise, talking, funny shows, writing, drawing, curling up to a good movie, shower, bath, crying, etc.

Seeing a psychiatrist for medication is a must if you are depressed, especially if you are cutting yourself. Also, seeing a therapist who can help you to deal with life stressors and to explore underlying reasons for your self-harming behavior, sadness, and low self-esteem, as well as strategies and insight that will bring you to a much healthier and happier way of life. The fact is that smoking will never help you in your life with anything.

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